Good communication is as stimulating as black coffee, and just as hard to sleep after. ~ A. Morrow Lindbergh
I received some feedback this week that I should have received more than 3 years ago. Feeling blindsided and unappreciated I slipped into behavior reserved for high school kids in an after-school ‘spirited debate’. I lashed out in my best defense about why the feedback was wrong and how I should have received the message a long time ago. After getting over my 2-minute ego trip, I allowed the feedback to sink in and
After getting over my 2-minute ego trip, I allowed the feedback to sink in and realized, of course, they were right. I was still miffed about not having received the news that I needed years ago but I was nonetheless thankful it was finally brought to my attention. I often wonder why it takes us so long to share insight or observations necessary for growth. Why are we so afraid to give our family, friends, co-workers, and bosses the gift of feedback?
I can only conclude one of two things is happening. Either we haven’t learned how to give feedback or we don’t create environments where feedback across all levels is not only encouraged but expected.
My challenge to you this week is to share one piece of feedback critical to the growth of someone from whom you get your direction. This person can be a boss, teacher, parent, or spouse. Explain how you are invested in the success of your partnership with them and why the feedback allows you to further assist in meeting their goals and objectives. Request advice on the best way to give feedback and how often it should be offered.
Don’t feel comfortable with this challenge? Get over it. Anything in our history worth changing started with the single brave act of offering feedback.