Avoid having your ego so close to your position that when your position falls, your ego goes with it. ~ Colin Powell
Hearing feedback that forces you to accept the center of gravity is not easy, especially for those of us that have to be right all the time. I tried offering feedback to a very close friend but she rejected it on the spot. She felt that it is not her job to cater to the feelings of others all the time and that she can’t do anything about how others perceive her.
For a minute I thought I was talking to myself since what she was saying to me is eerily similar to what I would normally say to someone else. In my opinion, something happens in our early stages of maturity that convince us not only do we have to be right, but the problem is with other people when they can’t accept when they are wrong. I remember someone pointing out to me how a sunrise and sunset actually happen. Despite our need to be the catalyst for everything, it is actually the earth that revolves around the sun and not the other way around. How dare he point out that the universe doesn’t revolve around me!
My challenge to you this week is to solicit the feedback of a child. Ask him or her to suggest one thing that can make you a better leader, coach, teacher, listener, or mentor. Don’t allow them to reply that there is nothing you can do. You are not the sole point from which all things good evolve and all things right flow.
You can decide if at that point you will choose to let your leadership revolve around feedback or the other way around. Like the earth and sun relationship, your leadership will have patterns of a ‘rise’ and ‘set’. Don’t allow your ego to blind you from the obvious opportunities to accept your role in each.